The psychology of a child in two years
The most important thing you should learn parents: up to 5 years, the child is not able to control their attention, memory, thinking. All this is involuntary in nature. The child is a fast learner that he was interested in looking at something that caught his attention, but to pay attention to what is necessary, it is still not.
So angry at the two-year kid that he can’t repeat your yesterday’s explanation about the dangers of sockets, at least, stupid. So, your explanation was quite interesting. It is on the emotional impact built in this age control the behavior of the baby. The child goes for their emotions, very bright, and at the same time unstable. Baby easy to distract, to shift his attention, offering a more attractive experience.
Children are very easy to learn at this age, but we must bear in mind that the most effective teacher is the one who is causing the child simultaneously two emotions: trust and interest. Many of us are faced with the fact that the child did not seem to hear the adult, therefore, either he doesn’t trust the adult (the reasons may be different), or an adult not able to emotionally captivate your baby.
Very useful for emotional sphere of the child rhythm of the game, no wonder children love them so much. It’s a rocking, tossing, and swinging on the swings. They soothe and bring positive emotions, and, as a consequence, allow you to develop intellectually.
Another feature of the two-year old children of low ability to understand the source of their physical discomfort. The child simply feels that something is wrong, but what he can not explain. He didn’t sleep, ate poorly, he was very cold, it is uncomfortable clothing – it can be understood only by an extreme situation. He was very cold, the clothing generally uncomfortable, he categorically not slept, and he clumped to the eye, but if these feelings are not as strong, it will just feel bad not to respond to interesting lessons offered by the teacher or parent. That is why before any developmental activities or games, you should ensure that all physiological needs of the child are satisfied.
Group sessions with children this age, in the form in which it occurs, for example at school, is still impossible. Even if the teacher deals with a group of children, he should be ready to maintain individual contact with each separately. Children at this age are egocentric, and in a sense do not notice other children. This is not talking about selfishness or inability to make friends. For these concepts yet, just not the time. The child lives in a world of simple things that are in the subject area, for him there is something you can touch or touch. Peers for two-year-old is certain objects with which it is convenient or inconvenient to do something next, but how to interact with them, he still does not know and does not feel the need. He seeks to imitate what an adult or older child. The child will learn from the actions of an adult, provided, of course, that is sympathetic and not a peer. And two year old children does not filter the actions and behavior of the adult. If they like this adult, they will learn from it all, good and bad, until his manners to sit on a chair or stretch of the word. The main thing that the child seemed interesting and exciting. At the same time, if a teacher in a kindergarten group is behaving cold, distant and emotionally not able to win over children, they will find another site to follow. For example, it may be a nurse.
A child of two years knows the world, performing simple manipulation of surrounding objects. He is interested in the subject and actions. The more it surrounds a variety of items and actions, the freer he can work with them in this environment, the better the child develops. Therefore in this age it is so easy to interest the child any kind of creativity associated with the work of his hands, or to teach anyone, feeding information through actions. You will be hard to teach a toddler letters, showing them in the book, and another thing, if the letters are made of plastic, you can touch them, put a trail of them, or put them in a separate container.
In two years the child already has some achievements in the field of language. He is very much understand, and is just now beginning at a furious pace to gain your active vocabulary. As often as possible talk to the child. Not instead of him, and with him. Your sentences should be short, clear, vivid and emotional. It is not Lisp and distort the words. Talk to him like an adult, but figuratively and emotionally. It is noteworthy that the best say those two-year-old children who have older brothers or sisters. Why? Because they say quite simply, and this is something that is interesting to a two year old. At the same time, in the games of older children is what activates the baby by the way: the commands and actions you need to perform. This is not in collaboration with peers. If your child only plays with the same two-year-old children, they definitely need someone initiates joint play, for example, to build a «castle» out of sand or look in the sandbox that lost toy. It stimulates joint actions, competitiveness, and, therefore, causes the need for all of this to accompany the words.
The role of parents in the development of speech is very important. But this does not mean that it is necessary to torment the child’s constant recuperate and comments. Parents can greatly help the child, stimulating language skills in a variety of games. Importantly, it was emotional, fun and interesting. Considering the books, say simple phrases, offering the child to finish them: a cat lapping…(milk) rooster sitting on…(the fence). The words do not go together propevia or pronounce. Learning soft toy, together, try to answer the question of what it is, describing its color, size, degree of fluffiness, character, temperature. Invent games that interest him. As often as possible try onomatopoeic game is fun and develops articulation skills. Rolling machine, it is possible to show that she grumbles, puffing, hissing, rumbling, tapping. More sing, learn together with your child simple tongue twisters – given that many adults they do not go, plenty of fun is guaranteed.
The crisis of two years
This is the age of stubbornness, which is so well known to experienced parents. The constant «no» is not a trait of your kid, it is a feature of this age. And it is important to understand where that stubbornness came from and why it is necessary for the kid. And knowing you’ll finally be able to relax and not to perceive objections as perpetual desire to annoy you.
The fact that at this age the child learns to control themselves, both physically and psychologically. He can now potty trained, can run away from mom for a walk. And he realizes that he is a completely separate personality, with its own characteristics. This is an emerging sense of independence is in need of reinforcements. Refusing to wear this shirt, eat porridge now, or forgetting that your phone is not a toy, although you have forbidden to play with him, he just tells you: «I’m independent!».
And here parents, it is important to behave with a degree of flexibility. To break the stubbornness of the kid – dangerous for the formation of his personality. All the time to give you risk to obtain self-confident tyrant. It is not necessary to tell the child either «Yes» or «no». Distract him! You take the situation of confrontation, and nobody is neither a winner nor a loser. The baby doesn’t want to wear this shirt? Offer to play him in the game «And where he hid the shirt?», «Who will wear the shirt, me or you?» or just wait a couple of minutes by doing something else. Maybe in a couple of minutes, the shirt will not be so important. Stubborn draw attention to something unusual and fun, exercise more imagination, and after a while it will start to cooperate with you, because you let him know that you respect his opinion, and at the same time, you wonder. Always praise for obedience, but stay like a different situation impossible.
Another trick: to give the child to understand where his area of responsibility and where your. Listen to his opinion during the games, act like you are partners on equal terms, but require unquestioning obedience in matters of safety and health. He needs to understand that this is not an area where somehow acceptable to «swing right». At the same time, the more you play with him, giving him the opportunity to feel like an adult, the less he will want to resist at lunch time or before bed. As often as possible start addressing him with the words, «Want…?», so he didn’t make the decision. Of course, not always the child can immediately understand that it is better for that Burger, not the candy. We will need your skills of the propagandist. Gently let him to the idea, or that it is better to talk out loud together. More explain, talk, tell short interesting stories – he will remember it all and might surprise you just a couple of years, coming from the garden and told that Peter wants to be strong and not eating cereal. Only your stories have to be genuine, and you must be sure about these. If you are trying to manipulate the child with the help of interesting stories, he will notice you. Never ask the child what he is not. Notify him when it’s time to sleep or eat, giving him the option to switch from interesting games on the performance of their duties.
Adhering to these recommendations, you will not notice, as a former stubborn will become your friend and partner, and there will be another interesting period – the period of development cooperation.